My Letter To WGCI

I was listening to the radio this morning (WGCI Morning Riot) and I was unable to get through on the phone lines regarding a certain topic pertaining to white women taking all the good black men. As I absorbed what the listeners were saying, a lot of things popped in my mind regarding the topic. As much as I know that some black women (although I know it’s not every black woman) have issues with white women or other women outside the African America race dating a black man, I feel that it is completely unjustified to harbor the hatred that seems so apparent in their responses. Did we not spend a majority of the 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and even the 80’s fighting for equality!? I mean let’s face it, it’s 2010, our president is black, and now more than ever would be the greatest time to throw these petty reservations out the window and come together. Women of every race need to realize that finding a good man in general can sometimes be a hard thing to come by, just as men have the same exact issues trying to find a good woman. The world as we know it isn’t the way it used to be and unfortunately there are a lot of people in this world who are self absorbed and only feel love for themselves.
The last few boyfriends that I have had all were of the African American race and luckily their families were very supportive of our relationships as after getting to know me they realized that I’m a great person and I am extremely easy to get along with. I feel that it is necessary for everyone of every race to realize that we’re all human beings and get off of the whole color thing. I realize that African American people have been through a lot when it comes to American History and I disagree with the way they were treated in the past, but until we can let go of the past, we’ll never be able to focus fully on the future ahead of us. I guess I’ll mention the fact that I am a white female, who is currently dating a black man so it only makes sense that I’m writing you on this topic. I grew up in a very mixed environment as my father was a musician who gigged in the city a lot and we were always taught that the color of our skin didn’t determine who we were or how we were supposed to act. It’s just a shame that society is still stuck on the whole race thing.
There were a few comments about how black men only date white women because they aren’t strong and are viewed as push-overs. I feel that is a very unnecessary generalization as I myself am a very strong and educated white woman. There was also a Latino woman who had also called in and stated that black women are gold diggers which is also completely unnecessary. I feel that women need to start focusing on their own problems instead of transposing their self esteem issues and problems on everyone else. You can spend a life time blaming others for your problems and never fix them or you can step up to the plate take accountability and be real! It’s time we stop pushing our problems and insecurities on everyone else because it’s pulling us apart as a nation.
I can remember the day that Obama was speaking in Grant Park like it was yesterday. For one night, there was no violence, no hatred, and no animosity between anyone. It just amazes me, and to an extent disappoints me, that as a society we made such progress and in less then a year and a half, we’ve regressed back to our old ways. I guess I just am pleading with everyone to try and realize that at the end of the day we all bleed the same color, we all have similar problems, and that together we are much more powerful than divided. If we keep letting petty things such as race get in the way of progress and peace, we’ll only hurt ourselves in the long run.